I was not a Tori Spelling fan when she was in 90210. Never watched it. I discovered her one night when I was flipping around and her show So NoTORIous was on VH1. It was an over-the-top fake version of her real life. It was self-deprecating and hilarious. I became a fan, and I love Tori & Dean: Home Sweet Hollywood. Both her books are funny and thoughtful and I highly recommend them. (sTORI telling and Mommywood.)
On the last episode, Tori's very good friends, a couple named Bill and Scout (two men) announce that they are going to adopt. (Cheers, tears of happiness - they are sooooo great with Tori's kids.) On the T&D website there was a little video of Bill and Scout at the adoption agency learning about the process they will have to go through - tons of forms and questionnaires, home visits, career and financial questions, complete biographies, letters of support, medical reports - you name it. They need to know every single thing about your life to determine if you are suitable parents for a child who has no parents at all. There was no indication the process would have been any different for a hetero couple.
This got me wondering - why is the adoption process so intense and difficult, when any moron can go out and have a child and society doesn't care unless they nearly kill them? I mean, when horrible people - who should not have had children - neglect or abuse them to the point where the children are removed by Social Services, the goal is always to return the children to the horrible parents at the first sign of stability. But when perfectly normal people want to care for the children no one else wants they have to prove they are perfect. This makes no sense. I think that if the process was not so egregious (and expensive) a lot more people would consider adoption. Nobody's perfect, so aren't less-than-perfect adoptive parents better than no parents?
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